My NPD father moved far away when I was a child. My father took my mother to court every chance he got to lower child support and threatened to take me and my siblings away. He made up complete lies about my mother. He re-married a woman who I strongly believe has NPD to. Even though he lives far away he managed to steal my childhood away. He is a “born again Christian” in public but behind closed doors he is the most evil, vile man I have ever come across. When he would have parenting time with he and his wife would control everything I did. I always was afraid to speak, I felt like I was walking on egg shells 24/7 because if I did not say what they wanted to hear or disagreed with them in any way I would be verbally bashed. It’s hard to describe how they would emotionally abuse me… they would usually talk about how bad my grades were in school, that I was a liar, and how “horrible” my mother was and how I was going to go to hell if I disrespected them in any way and that I needed Jesus in my life. When I was a young teenager I snapped I couldn’t take seeing them anymore. I cut off all communication with him I have not talked to him or seen him in almost ten years. I have also stayed off social networking sites. I found out today with proof that he hired a private investigator to harass my husband. He must have spent ten thousand dollars on this. This PI followed my husband on the freeway going over 90mph ridding his bumper (the stalking went on for like a month). I am in fear of him now because for some reason I am on his radar and this is what he did to my mother. He is a very violent person; he physically abused/stalked my mother. I am afraid he is trying to ruin my life, like he trying to find dirt on me or my husband. I am afraid he will make something up about me and try to get me fired by my employer. I know I was mostly just ranting in this message but I have never shared my story with anyone and it’s not even the whole story. I just wanted to know if anyone ever had a NPD parent who used their wealth to destroy them. If anyone has advice to give me on handling this I would appreciate it.