I wonder how the woman would have felt if she was drugged and didnt remember or consent to what happened to them- of course you should be angry-and have the feelings you are experiencing- do not let anyone invade your soul as they have your body. You have a right to all you are thinking and feeling. PS I dont think that happens from alcohol alone ---YOU WERE DRUGGED

You were taken advantage of and violated, much like victims of date rape drugs. You have no memory of even consenting and do not remember the incident. Have you called the rape hotline? http://www.rainn.org
I would think that the folks there are going to be compassionate and non-judgmental.

Also, on a side note: have you ever, before this incident, blacked out after drinking alcohol? If the answer is yes, then I would gently suggest that perhaps you have a problem with alcohol and need to look into some sort of support group like AA. If the answer is no, then call the rape hotline and ask how long the date rape drugs stay in the body and if getting tested now would find any traces. If traces are found, then a crime has been committed. Not to say of course that the rape wasn't a crime too. It was and the fact that you feel violated is understandable.

Please don't be hard on yourself, just because you're a guy... You were taken advantage of and all the feelings you have right now are normal. You sound like a caring, compassionate and decent guy. You need a safe place where you can process your feelings and heal. Please consider calling the rape hotline. 1.800.656.HOPE (4673) They won't ask for any identifying information, but they'll be able to lend an ear and offer some advice for coping.

Have you checked out this site?:

http://www.rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/male-sexual-assault




I wish there was more that I could say to help and more that I could do. Please call RAINN and talk to someone. Also, if you're near a health food store, pick up some Bach's rescue remedy (it's in a little bottle) and take about 4 drops in some water every hour or so until you're feeling a little less anxious. It also comes in lozenges (pastilles) in a little tin. It's for trauma/stress of any kind-- emotional and physical.


If the Rescue remedy is at all helpful, there are other bach remedies that can help you release this trauma and heal. Crab apple is another good remedy for you. There are others. This site has a listing of all the remedies and what each one is good for.

http://feelbach.com/bachflowers.htm


Also, go to http://www.emofree.com/

this is a marvelous technique that works even if it sounds a little woo-woo.

Please give them a try.

((HUGS))

Read your story. I hope you have sought some counseling. It helps to talk to somebody and get these dark thoughts out of your mind. I was drugged and raped by three guys in a gay club. It took me a long time to talk about it because I felt cheap and ashamed of myself. We need to talk about these things and it is good to cry about it too. You have to let it out, and therefore find someone who do understand. We should not be cross at those who cannot understand our pain and embarrassment, for they have not been in our shoes yet.

The main thing is that life goes on and that you cannot put your happiness in future relationship in jeopardy because of people who are a bigger danger to themselves than to you. You owe it to yourself to go and live a good life.

Wish you well.

also to add to my other post,, the idea of the media geting involved (male Marine raped by women) scares the hell out of me.... then no matter that i do i would not be able go back to normal, i would always have prople looking at me at that guy who got raped..

I do believe you were drugged, cause alcohol cannot work that fast after a couple of drinks, and pray for comfort and use a lot of mind power, your strong mentally.