Anja....guess what....those men are still looking! But they are not "leering" anymore.

My husband did a stupid thing once. While having lunch with me and a girlfriend, he proceeds to tell us that ALL men look at ALL women and "Assess". Assess what? (we asked innocently). Yep, assess.

So our next question is what about very young women, or very old women. He admitted there is a shelf life, but for the most part, the minute a girl gets breasts, and the minute the breasts are hanging down to the belly button. That's a whole lotta years in between. Apparently they look, make an immediate assessment, and move on. It's done without malice, or "fore"thought....it's just the way it is.

He swore this was exactly what happens. I have no idea why he told us this, it seems that it's one of those secrets men have.

Sooooo, my tall beautiful blonde friend and I proceed back to work down a very busy street in San Francisco, about 5 blocks. She starts to notice the "looks" or assessments. By two blocks the woman is positively beside herself. Finally about the 4th block we walk past a group of about 5 guys strolling off to lunch, at which my usually very gentile friend screams at them "SO, AM I GOOD ENOUGH? TAKE A PICTURE JERKS"......UH. Those poor guys had no idea, and probably wrote her off as a raving lunatic...LOL. Of course I decided to start speeding up my pace to put some distance between us.

Yep, that was the dumbest thing my husband has ever told anyone, anywhere.

So Anja, unless you are 80, I'd say you are deluding yourself my dear. At least according to my dear hubby.

Molly

But seriously, a discussion about beauty and "sexual power" would be a good one.

Perhaps I'll start a thread. I haven't done that in awhile......