Roomates - but not working out well ... 
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16 y
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In the beginning of the year my daughter and I rented a place with a good MALE friend of mine. He had currently been residing w/his parents and I was struggling financially do to a job loss in making ends meet on my own - so we agreed that things would be 50-50 in finances as well as household chores. I knew it was going to be adjustment for my friend to step up to the plate considering he had been living w/his parents w/no responsibilities for the prior 6 years, but I thought considering he was a 36 year old man - he wouldn't have that difficult of a time adapting to things that needed to be handled. We are now living together for 11 months and I absolutely have come to loathe him with a passion!
Finances are 50-50, but everything else is NOT! It's really upsetting me. I feel like I'm taking care of 2 kids! This grown man is the LAZIEST MAN I know/have ever met in my life. Not only am I taking care of the inside of the house in it's entirety other than his bedroom I am also maintaining the outside of the house all by myself!
He makes 3 times the amount of money that I do working 2nd shift, but yet he has only every purchased 4 gallons of milk in the past 11 months. The first time he bought a gallon of milk he thought the store overcharged him because of the cost! No Joke!
He has never lived on his own before, but he has been married at one point - resulted in divorce and that's when he moved back w/his parents because he was struggling w/child support payments for 2 children. His 2 kids come over every other weekend and I am the one who is cooking for them as if they were my own or step kids and I love his kids - they are great, but I'm not there mother and I don't think I should be taking care of them as if they are my kids, but it is quite odd just to cook for myself and my daughter while they are in the same house - that would make me feel like a jerk.
Every morning the lazy person wakes up at 10am and than plays games on the computer till 12, makes himself something to eat for lunch and than goes to work, comes home grabs a bag of doritoes and once again sits on his rear watching tv or playing games on pogo till 3am...This is his daily routine - and it's disgusting! He does nothing else unless it's nice summer weather and his friends want to play golf, but when it comes to the house NOTHING!
I've tried speaking to him - I've even yelled at him telling him I'm not "merry maids", but it only makes a difference for 2 days (if that) and than it's the same ole thing again.
Anyone got any advice on how to deal with this living arrangement? I still have months to go on this lease...so leaving is not an option!
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- Re: Roomates - but not working out w... Beautiful26
16 y
2,651
MoreThis is a reply to # 1,298,431OMG you poor woman. My heart goes out to you. It really does. The only advice I can give you with that would be. Legally if he is not on the lease. Then you have the right to tell him to get his stuff and get out. Because you've tried talking to him and that's not working. So if his name is not on the lease legally. Than he can go by you telling him so. Or you can consult with your landlord to see if they would remove your name from the lease and just find another place. Let him have the apartment.
- Re: Roomates - but not working out w... BlueRose
16 y
2,616
This is a reply to # 1,298,431It does sound like you're stuck until the lease is up. That is unless you can find someone else to take over your space--in other words--sublet. Either way, check with your landlord to see what options you have.
There is no reason why you should be buying food for him! Tell him from now on he buys his own food and cooks for himself. If you have to label everything in the fridge that's yours, then do so. As for his kids---if they say they're hungry, then tell them to talk to their dad about it. When it comes to the yard work---tell him that unless he does his share, you are going to hire someone to do it and you expect him to pay for half of that expense. Or here's another thought---can you talk to the landlord and see if he will hire someone to maintain the yard? Tell the landlord to just tack on the extra expense to your rent. That way the lazy bum of a roommate will have to pay his share. It's time you laid down the law!
He sounds like an immature jerk and a real mama's boy. Perhaps that's the reason he's now divorced! BTW, is there any chance you can get him to move back in with mommy and daddy?
- Re: Roomates - but not working out w... Beautiful26
16 y
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