Hi,

Here it went downhill a year ago.
My husband is very understanding,but my depression,and lack of sexdrive were terrible.Crying about many things,hyperventilating.
I have to say,i did have sex against my will(he did not know),to keep my husband happy,but it made me more depressed.
Whe've had many problems,i did not want to go on holliday,i went out with the kids,because i felt i had to,it was a nightmare for me,because sitting in the car for more than 30 minutes,made me feel anxious.

Now,20 weeks post-removal,it is better,but still not the way i want it to be.
But i keep in mind,that it takes time to heal.
My whole system is out of balance.
I have found two therapists who believe it's the Mirena!!.

love from Bright

Go ahead and print this one!!!!!

Before I got it out, my husband and I became more like roommates than husband and wife. Everything I said came out rude and bitchy. I was even rude to him in front of one of my customers, and I felt bad afterwards, but at the time, I didn't care. That normally isn't me at all. When dealing with a customer, or anyone for that matter, we are very professional and courtious. But during this crazy time with Mirena, I didn't give a crap what I said and to who I said it.

Also, our sex life was gone altogether. I know he still wanted it, but I could care less. I didn't have one sexy bone in my body. When we did do it, it was so I could shut him up for a while.

Thank God he was supportive throughout this whole ordeal. I only went to work and home. I had basically stopped living a life. I didn't want to go anywhere. I would come home from work and go straight to my bedroom. Everyday. My hair was falling out in clumps. I had anxiety big time. Depression did not help either. I really got depressed because there wasn't one doctor who would confirm that the Mirena could be causing this. In fact, they wanted to put me on anti depressants, and up until that day, I hadn't been depressed. I lost about 15 lbs, but it wasn't a good thing. I'm only 125 lbs to begin with, so I was looking sickly skinny. My face lost color, in fact in some pictures, my face looked grey!!!!

Once I got the Mirena removed, life is starting to get back to normal. It wasn't an instant fix, but that very day of removal, my back ache went away. Now I'm 5 1/2 months post removal, and I'm 90% back to normal. I still get side effects right before, during, and a couple days after my period, but I can deal with that no problem, and now 6 periods later, the side effects are very minimal. In fact, I only had a teensy bit of anxiety with this last one, and nothing else.

Good luck!!! We're all here for you!!!

Tiffani
Bradenton, Florida

ON THE VERGE OF DIVORCE HERE !!!! i am not blaming it all on mirena but a good 90% of my marrital problems are due too mirena. we have 3 children. with mirena i literally had schizophrenia. i was suicidal daily. couldnt take care of my kids because i was too tired and too bitchy. like someone else posted i would say anything without caring, always rude and bitchy. went to the ER the day i almost punched my three year old for jumping onto my lap. my abdomen was always tender. could not focus on anything for more than a minute. i felt like i had alzheimers. i hated everything and everyone. i woke up angry that i had to live another day. little things set me off. my body was at war with myself. everything was out of whack!!! unfortunately my husband was not supportive after awhile and had an affair along with many internet affairs. i truly think there is too much hurt on both sides too have a good marriage.
since removal, i am back too my old self except when i have pms. i am calm, cool, and collected. sex is definitely fun now. i am able to work. i hardly ever yell at my kids. never even have the urge to want to hurt them. everyone notices the changes in me. i have self confidence now. i enjoy life on a daily basis. i no longer let one thing ruin my whole day. i know that even if i do get divorced i will find happiness in life. its just not going quite the way i planned...

In a word, yes. My husband is the one who suggested I see my doctor because of the terrible mood swings, etc. that I was having. He is the one who thought Mirena might be to blame - I disagreed for probably 3 months. That is when I started doing some research and boy was I surprised by what I found. We used to never fight - now, I cannot control what comes out of my mouth. I don't even like me anymore! I'm hateful and mean and have zero tolerance or patience for anything anymore. I do very well "hiding" it from my 1 and 3 year olds, my 12 yo seems it a bit more and I can't even try to hide it from my husband. I've been asking my husband for a month to just please hang on until I can get this thing out and hopefully return to the old me.

I would not say that it's on the rocks, but we sure have some really rough times--particularly over my non-existent sex drive. I had no sex drive. Really, really dreaded it for the entire 3 years I had the IUD. I'm almost 7 months post-removal and my hormones are still so out of whack that I don't know that it's improved much at all. It's a big problem for us and I don't doubt that a less devoted husband would have had an affair by now. I'm lucky like that.

i will say mine is pretty crappy right now, everything was fine until i got mine in March this year. He wont seem to believe me that this thing is causing me to act like i never have before. Unfortunately I have yet to get it out due to money problem which is pissing me off and making it even worse.


Ashley

I won't assign all blame for the breakup of my relationship to Mirena, but I will say this, it was certainly a contributing factor. The decrease in my sex drive, the increase in my irritability and depression, the physical changes to my body (a distended abdomen on a small frame is much more noticeable) all contributed to the end of our relationship. As my side effects increased, I started a slow and steady slide downhill and our relationship was not strong enough to survive those effects. All that being said, I accept that it happened and have no anger - just disappointment. Perhaps had my doctor informed me that certain systemic side effects were possible, I would have been able to watch for early signs and know that this birth control was not working out for me.

Mine certainly was. We were definitely going to divorce. He pulled away from me and I as well. I got very bitchy and he responded in kind. When we weren't fighting we were completely cold to one another. It was ugly. Things are a million times better now. Getting back to church helped us too.