My ex and I broke up about 2 1/2 years ago. We had a very disfuctional relationship. It was about 3 years long and the last year was pretty bad. Without going to much into it basically what ruined the relationship was we had an "accident" so we decided at that current point in our lives we were not ready for that and we opted to take the abortion pill. After that things went way down hill and she couldn't really stand to be around me that much and she ended up cheating on me with a few different people. Still I tried to work things out but it just wasn't happening so we broke up. Over the last 2 years we remained friends.

She moved to a different state about a year ago now and I even helped her move. We would still talk on the phone and maybe talk about once a week or so. Every now and then she would get a wild streak in her and she would try and pick fights with me and try and make me mad. She would say very demeaning things to me and try and hold the abortion over my head saying things like I forced her into it (which was most definitely not the case I was supportive of which ever we decided to do). I finally decided that would be best if we didn't talk anymore. She didn't like that too much and kept leaving very desperate messages on my phone saying she wanted to talk to me. After a few days of that I finally caved (I really hate seeing people in pain) and talked to her about it. We talked and worked everything out and decided we would only do what was truly best for each other.

She would come into town every now and then and we would hang out and sometime have the post break up sex stuff. Well last time that happened she stayed at my place and she said she was gonna meet a girl friend of hers for a quick drink and be right back. Well it got real late she still was out so I decided to go to bed. I was moving some of her stuff off my bed and her a daily planner was flipped wide open right in the middle of my bed reminding her of the two dates with two different guys she was gonna go on that weekend she was in town. Even though we were broken up I was still pretty disappointed that she was still sneaking around. I really just want honesty you know.

So the next morning I confronted her about it and asked she would do that. She said she didn't want to hurt me but I just want to be mature about things and just be straight up with each other. We talked it out and all was well but after that I pretty much decided that we probably shouldn't really hang anymore. We would probably talk about once every 2 weeks and we have hung out maybe once or twice in the past 5 months for about maybe but for not very long and no sex since then too.

Recently I found out that she took some pictures of her and her roommate having sex and they were gonna put it up on a website to make some extra money. I was shocked and angered by this. Not because they had sex but because my ex always talked about how porn was gross and destructive and constantly talk about how disgusting it was that ex of mine had her own nudie website. I was told she was really drunk but how can one just completely just throw their own personal morals out the window after a few drinks (I am not a drinker so maybe I am missing something)? If she lied about how she felt about porn and in the past about sleeping with other people, what else did she lie to me about? I began to think her whole personality was a big lie.
(DISCLAIMER: I am a very non judgemental person and if someone wants to do drugs, get drunk, make porno that is fine. That is their own person decision and everyone has their own perspective on the world and path they can take. I may not think that is the most healthy decision for themselves but its also not my life.)

So that was it I was done. I decided I wasn't gonna be dramatic and call her up about it I was just gonna stop responding to her emails, texts, or phone calls. She tried calling and texting and email, over the next week or so just to say hi and all that like we used to do but I didn't ever respond. After about a week or two of that she really freaked out.
About a week ago one night she called and texted me about 5 times within a 2 hour span begging me to call her back, crying. So once again I caved and called her back. She said she was gonna kill herself, that she gave all her money to her roommate. Then she kept asking me to marry her and asking me why I don't love her anymore. I stayed calm but tried to be assertive with her. I didn't get into specifics with her and told her that I couldn't trust her anymore and that we probably shouldn't talk anymore. She kept saying how we were meant to be together and I should give her another chance. That I was the only person she had sex with sober in her whole life. She kept try to get me to say that we might have again in the future so she had something to give her hope in life otherwise she might kill herself. I didn't know what to say. I just tried to calm her down.

She wrote me yesterday saying that she was very physically sick and also she is going to see a counselor on Tuesday and that I should call her or come see her. While I am happy for her that she is seeking someone out for help I am not too sure it would be a good idea for us to get back together in the future. I mean I should never say never right? She may work a lot of things out and maybe become a more mentally stable person.

So what do you guy think I should do? While I applaud her trying to improve her mental health and work out her destructive past, I think she may be doing it for the wrong reasons. I want her to do it for relationship with herself and not a projected relationship with me. Do you think I should talk to her and support her? I don't want to give her the wrong idea and make her think we might try out our relationship again when I am not sure if it is a good idea or not. I truly care for her and love and want her to get better, I am just tired of being lied to and taken advantage of...

I have some other questions about this and her but I figured this is long enough for now...