Teach Them Resilience 

One of the roughest, yet most meaningful lessons you can teach your child is how to bounce back from disappointment or defeat. Perseverance is key and teenagers need to appreciate the value of accepting when something does not go their way. Explain that they have the power to make a change, in themselves or in a situation they do not like. It is better to describe what multipliers do rather than take the issue upon yourself. Tenacity and self-advocacy are two qualities that will benefit every graduate as they move onto college or career, so start empowering them at a young age.

Help Them Find Kindness and Compassion Inside

The adage that what goes around comes around holds a great deal of truth. Teachers and peers are ever-present in classrooms, hallways and cafeterias. When someone else is hurting or down, guide your teen to be the one to reach out and help. Let them understand the courage it takes to stand up for another person. Their humanity will be noticed and will foster their reputation as sensible and good. In addition, their behavior will invite friendships and help them build quality relationships.

Encourage Them to Get Involved

Joining a club, sport or extra-curricular activity will go far in easing the transition from middle grades to upper grades. It does not matter if what they decide to sign up for matches your interests, as long as it aligns with theirs. Once they are on a team or in an organization, be supportive. Remember to ask about practices and meetings, and try to attend any events that are open to parents. When they feel as if you share what matters to them, they will feel bolstered by your enthusiasm.

Be a Parent, Not a Friend

Perhaps one of the trickiest lines to walk is the one between raising a child or colluding with them. Believe it or not, having parameters to which they are held, makes young people feel secure. Further, rules help those who are still inexperienced to avoid destructive decisions. Research also shows that teens with parents who model their expectations may be more respectful, less selfish and better able to stand on their own two feet. Do not be afraid to discipline your child when they need it.

Know When to Reassure Them

Anxiety and stress are two of the leading emotional troubles high schoolers face. Yes, it is important to establish rewards and consequences, but it is equally as crucial to know when to be a cheerleader. As much as you think they've been where your kids are in terms of conflicts with friends or concern over test scores, you have to remember that what your child is going through is brand new to them. So listen. Be aware of the signs associated with strain or anxiousness and make it abundantly clear that you have an open-door policy in times of need.

Stay In Touch

It is not enough to check in with just your child. Take a moment at least once a month to contact a teacher or counselor even if you are comfortable with what life looks like at home. Do not be afraid to ask how they are doing in school, beyond the report card, as you can never fully know what is happening outside of your home.

There is no official guidebook to parenting, and there will be times when you feel like you are making it up as you go along. That is okay. Be open. Be firm. Be consistent.

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