New fathers may feel like their in the dark, playing second fiddle to a mom who spends lots of time with the newborn. But these early days aren't just about mommy and baby. They are about being a family. Dads can find time to bond and help, so don't be afraid to step in and spend some time with your child. 

Take a deep breath and remember that this experience is a learning curve. If you're a bit nervous, that is okay. Try your best, and use the following five tips to improve your dad-baby connection.

1. Prepare for Colic

Many babies experience tummy distress, crying a lot. This condition, known as Colic, happens for many reasons. Dads can help out by supporting and comforting both mom and the little one. Take turns with the child, giving mom a break. In addition, learn to swaddle. The tightness may come from some comfort, reminding the infant of the womb.

Furthermore, have some solutions on hand. The sooner your loved one feels better, the easier it may be for you to enjoy your time together. Some kids respond to gas drops. Others may require subluxation to help them relax.

2. Take Baby Breaks 

If mom is breastfeeding, you may feel limited in getting quality time. However, milk offers lots of nutrients, so it's important to let it happen. You may not be ready to give a bottle, but you could wait for the feeding to end and then offer to take the little one for a walk. The baby may have a good hour with the belly full before needing more food. That gives you a chance to go out and let momma do something else.

3. Ask for Help

Okay, you may like your independence, but it's okay to ask others for advice. What struggles are you experiencing? Do you find yourself afraid of anything in particular? Chances are, these emotions are very normal. You may find solutions by talking to others. Reach out to friends who recently had kids. Talk to your parents. It's been a while, but they've lived it! Learn from their experience.

4. Go Out With Friends or Spouse

You may not want to leave the baby at all, but it's essential to clear your head and spend time on the things that matter to you. Invest in yourself by doing something that you love, which makes you who you are. Do you like to run? Don't stop. Do you want dinner out without any crying or diapers? That's okay. Call some buds to grab a burger or plan a quick date out with your significant other. Make it a short hop out, and ask a close friend or family member to watch the baby.

5. Embrace the Baby Things

Babies need their parents to do everything. Don't leave mom to change all diapers, warm the bottles and pick out the outfits. Dive in and learn to do it all as well. You'll enjoy several benefits this way, including feeling better about having a baby in your home. 

The other benefit here is you are less likely to feel left out because you can and want to be part of the entire experience. Check the diaper bag; change the poop. It's a part of dadhood.

Enjoy your little bundle of joy and all of the memories you'll make as a parent. Prepare yourself, too, for what this new journey means and your role in it all. Talk to others about the reality of parenthood, seeking answers to your questions. Be there for everything, and give yourself a chance to bond.

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