I understand that whole thing about making so many arrangements then having to break them... It seems to me ideally you would have much more time to go through things like this, especially the sitting back and waiting to see what your fiance does with his drinking.

Maybe as measure of good faith, he could take some time off drinking. Whether it's permanent or not for him, it would be a show of solidarity if he wanted to honor your commitment by joining you in support or something.

I believe in a very delicate balance between two people - the feeling of mutual attraction, and thinking that you're as into the other person as they are into you. I have found that once this balance is lost, it's impossible to get it back. Now as you make many changes and strive to move towards your goals, be mindful of this balance. Because if you're giving up something that's been fun to you (believe me, I know the hangover sucks, but drinking can be fun when it's not abusive to your body), and he's not giving anything up, not changing, he's driving the conversation a bit. You could find yourself all changed up with no date!

Good luck and strength to you in this time of major trials. Your true and loving friends and family will be happy you're helping yourself make changes, no matter what that does to your wedding plans. They'll be back when you're ready.