Well my dear...  

First you are correct in the view that all the control groups want the controlled to follow as directed...   This is the plan of the Evil one; that all spirits should be obedient thoughtless followers ( i.e. robots)...  And so it is in the secular world in which we live...

Of course we humans are social animals thus we seek companionship and relationships...  There is in lay the errors of our ways...  So many in the vain attempt to " have a friend or lover " will do what ever means to accomplish this end!!  Many times this is the reason for failed marriages or other betrayals in life...

If we would but learn to not jump into situations on the heart so quickly; then just maybe live would turn out better for more people!! 

So i say again:  It really all comes down to self acceptance, learning to be content; i.e. make your satisfaction...

We each have choices to make; this is the plan of GOD to allow free agency...  If we would learn to evaluate and discern the elements of life; things would be; not perfect but much better... 

Thanks for your fine posts and views...

Maybe we will do lunch one day;  Kermit