oh no, that may "sound good", but i absolutely lost self-respect. i bought into the abuser's words and actions and began believing it. that is what their goal is and many fall victim to it. i was in the process of regaining that self-worth and self-esteem back (which is good because some never do) from one abuser, when i fell right into another one's grasp. they are very good at seeking out victims. i was vunerable and had my guard down. but, once again, i am working on gaining it back. there really is no other way for me to go but up. i am going to beusing my own advice, though, and buy some joe land subliminal CDs to help me, because i cannot do it on my owm and am very aware of that and able to admit it.