I just wanted to share...

after all the responses to 80479, a few days ago. I walk on Monday nights with my S-I-L and there was a guy who jogs and blades at the same time we are there. I saw him there, 2 weeks ago (last Monday, SIL was on vacation and I just didn't walk) and he and I spoke as we passed each other. This week, I and he would acknowledge the other as we passed. I was thinking I wonder how I am going to actually speak to this man, other than make a comment or a smile. Well, as life would have it (most might use the term, luck) he decided he would take the initiative and stopped us. He asked if we were there all the time. We said just on Mondays.

He asked if he could go around with us on our last lap. We agreed and talked some. Now the best part about this self induced dating abstination (wow, that sounds even worse than it ever was LOL!) I have learned to "listen" to what men are saying. I had taken a dating class (where one learns about the 'dos and don'ts of relationships)and learned to pay attention to 'flags'. These are things that may initially attract a person because that is what they are used to attracting. Well, this guy had some flags, as far as I thought.

Flags are not things that say no to dating, unless they are Red flags. They could be just pay attention and listen kind of flags. Those are mostly what he set off for me. LOL Although, as he was skating and we were walking (I presume) he told us he was bored and was ready to leave (he was on his last lap, also). OH and he did tell us, that the woman he dated sometimes, would say he is Still an Azzhole, after all this time (hmmm, not settin himself up for a pick up, IMO...LOL)...the reason he mentioned that is because some woman had many different sayings in chalk along our path, for her S.O. I kind of think that when (he says he is there every evening) I see him again, I will not be surprised if he does not speak to us LOL.

I guess in saying all this, I wanted to say I realized it is okay to talk with someone and not go beyond that moment. It helped me to know that I have learned some things, during this time of self reflection. It helped me to know that I can have expectations and not have to 'settle for less'. Although, my expectations are no longer about physicalness or what they were, even as recent as before I stopped dating.

Life is good. Everyday I awake I get another chance to do it again and sometimes, it will be better and sometimes, it will be the same!

OH and Zoe..I do wish we were near each other. I would love to trade services with you. Your energy is felt through this lovely modem :D!

Peace and Blessings All,
Beth Tweet