Re: Distract yourself?

Well, to tell you the truth, most of my 'solutions' to my own problems have come to me when I am busy thinking of something else.

When I was 16 and alone at home one day, I needed scissors for something I was making.

I couldn't find them anywhere. I looked everywhere I could think of for about half an hour. Then I gave up and went on to something else.

Shortly after that I found myself walking to a dresser, dropping to my knees, and looking underneath. There were the scissors, standing on one point against the wall. They had slid off the top and fallen down behind.

I had no way of knowing they had fallen, nor even that they had been on the dresser.

No, I don't think I am 'psychic', but this oddity has been serving me for fifty-plus years, even in my darkest days when I have been stuck in 'problems' for years. The 'answer' comes to me when I have given up and gone on to other things.

I guess there is something about 'concentrating' on a subject that blinds me to my happiest solution.

A strange thing happened to me a few minutes ago...

...I have been interested in eating more kelp. A few years ago, a long-time friend invited us to hear about a line of kelp skin care products being developed by a woman who had healed her own facial scars (from freezing) with kelp. I think it may have been the Iodine it contained , and the balance of nutrients, that helped her..but that is only a guess.

Could that help Plasticat? I don't know.

Would I tell Plasticat to try it? Absolutely NOT! I haven't tried it myself, and I have NO idea what might or might not help another with a similar problem.

But, my heart goes out to Plasticat. I've read some of her/his posts on another forum (though not below). This person is very unhappy with this one question.

I have been very unhappy, with one question, at one time. I didn't get out of my unhappiness until I took on something new. Things then came into a different perspective, and solutions to my 'problem' appeared. I could get on with my life.

To my way of thinking, that's the best way to proceed...go as far as you can correcting the situation to the best of your ability, then do something else you really like. Possibilities for the question of long-standing may then appear. Or, they may not.

In any case, you will have then built yourself some happiness in doing something else you care about.

This I DO know about. I've done it several times.

Looking back at 'problems' I couldn't solve at one time, they look very small...although I remember how painful they once were. Some were eventually solved, some weren't, but I couldn't stay in the unhappiness forever...no one can.

If you can't solve a question, and you have tried your level best, then there is nothing for it but to go on to other things in life.

It's not that you forget, it's just that you find things to focus on that you CAN do.

And, always, it is better to try things you really like whenever you can.

That's how I see it, anyway.

My best,

Fledgling