If you recognize that you're being abused emotionally, sexually, financially, physically, spiritually, and/or verbally, GET HELP NOW - the abuser will never seek to end his/her reign of violence and/or abuse unless he/she is 100% willing to do so. No human being can force the abuser to find that willingness.
If there are children involved, they are learning to develop into abusers or victims by observing the dynamics within your home.
Too many men and women are damaged and/or buried, each year, because they allow themselves to believe that their abuser "loves" them, "wants" them, or "needs" them. Don't let yourself (and, your children) become another statistic.