Hi Dennis! I too am confused about soy. Mercola (www.mercola.com) basically says soy is one of the evils of the world, unless it's properly fermented (ie. miso).
My naturopath says any soy (even the processed soy "meat" like hotdogs and hamburgers) is okay so long as it's organic and not from GM soybeans.
My sister has hypothyroid disease and was told by her doctor she cannot eat soy because it's bad for the thyroid. She was also raised on infant soy formula because she couldn't tolerate milk (I wasn't raised on soy like she was, and have had no problems - is this connected?)