not sure if i have herpes yet but...

Okay. I've been really worried this past week that I might have herpes. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow morning, so hopefully I can get tested then cause this is driving me crazy. I've been trying to do research on the internet, and sometimes
it seems like I might have herpes, sometimes it doesnt. Basically I've had this crazy itching for the past two months, with a small break in the skin right at the top of my vagina where my lips meet (above where my clit is, which seems like a very
unusual spot for the virus). I dont have any pus-filled blisters, it isn't oozing, just there. It doesn't scab over either, just kinda goes away a few days before I get my period, then comes back a few days after my period is done. Is that typical for outbreaks? It also is constantly itching, and driving me crazy. I've been with the same guy on and off for almost three years and we were both virgins when we got together. since then I've slept with three other guys, but the one guy sometimes didn't use a condom. I know, bad idea on my part....but its been like six months since that happened. I realize that the virus can lie dormant for awhile, but isn't it weird for it just appear like this and not go away? Any insight from someone with herpes woud be greatly appreciated...