Confused about marraige and fiance

I have been on and off excited about getting married to my fiance. We have been together 3 1/2 years and engaged 1. We are slated to be married in June of 2006 and plans are already in full swing.

We fight all the time about things that do not even matter. We know that there is issues underneath but it is hard to address them. We are seeing a therapist right now and it feels good but we have a hard time communicating after we leave the therapy sessions.

Two years ago I made the mistake of hitting my fiance after a horrible mean argument. This has opened the door for him to hit me. He does not do it often but threatens it when we are fighting to get me to shut up. I am a hard headed women who never backs down when I am threaten or feel that I did nothing wrong.

It is such a grey area for me because I am guilty of this as well and have made a VERY GOOD effort to not take the pyhsical route. I really do not believe that this is the type of couple we have amounted too but I have doubts about everything....In clamer moments I feel that we are ok and we can have a good life together. I do not understand my pathology.

I come from a dramatic family and so does my fiance. We have traits in us that would be bad in any relationship but this is no good because we tend to bring out the worst in each other due to these traits. Should we work on it (we are both willing) or should I (at 24) make a move to start again? I know these are unanswerable questons. I just don't know what to do. I hate the constant strife between us. I feel like I can never get to the route of the problem because we fight so much that by the time I bring it up we are already tierd from working out a pointless fight.

It is hard for us because we also have very different personalities. I can only explain it by stating that I am a social worker and he is a corporate attorney. These career identies do play a role on how we act in our personal life. He likes rules and I like to break them. I know I love him and that he loves me. Is love enough when you constantly attack each other. It is heartbreaking to think our realationship could fall apart.

Any advice would helpful.