You are right, we spend too much time trying to explain ourselves to other's satisfaction. That's a hard thing to avoid doing. Often it comes from needing the positive reinforcement, especially those of us with low self esteem. I've been learning to do as you suggested. It's been a long road, and still longer yet, but I HAVE found more peace and joy in my life. I can tell you that that's like a soothing balm to the spirit. Sometimes it's okay to just say, "that's just the way I think" and leave it at that. It's one of those things where knowing how to say no comes in handy! :D