hmm...you are challenged by family/obligations/health, he is very very sensitive, sometimes swinging over to totally insensitive. So that makes it easier for you to relate to him, easier than most people. He doesn't like to be alone, and if he gets clingy that bugs you. Both of you need very loose reins, loose guidelines, very clear guidelines as to boundaries/definitions of the relationship. Interesting exchange of anima/animus energies for the both of you.
You ARE a 10/1, but he needs to LEARN about 10/1. So he's learning thru you. This relationship is serving both of you, but possibly him more than you.