Ya remember that song you can't always get what you want but you can get what you need. I sure you can find a guy that emotionally cab support you. but as far as the ultimate sex is concerned you may need to find somebody that is willing to experiment. Sometimes this takes time. If you find a guy you are emotionally satisfied with see if he is willing to satisfy you in a way that you want. Sometimes all it takes is taking about it even though it may be uncomfortable. When I married my wife sex was ok but now five years later it has got to be ten times better. Every year it got better! She expects a little more still in the romantic dept. and sometimes I come though. But when something is lacking we can talk about it and make it better. Life is NOT fantasy but we can still have a great sex life if we communicate