Re: need help with sex!

Lately I have been experiencing some strange sexual dysfunctions. It seems that when ever I begin acts of intimacy with my new girlfriend I experience impotency! I am only 26 so I know something is wrong. I notice that when we start messing around I get aroused as usual but when she starts taking off my clothes I get defensive/uncomfortable/anxious/irritable, all at the same time and I become turned off immediately, no sex drive what so ever. I start having negative thoughts and achieving an erection is impossible. Even when she engages in oral sex to loosen me up, I remain uptight and unaroused; I remain limp.

This strikes me as odd because I have no such problems when I spank the monkey. Although lately I have noticed that my erections have been weak and a little soft compared to how they usually are.

For a long time, I was having hook ups with my Ex and the sex was great, but for some reason I just couldn't get it up with the new girl.

My sex drive has been following my mood swings and I have been become conscious of the inbalance. I really like this new girl I am dating, she is beautiful too; I don't know why I can't get over my ex and into her more; I really want to be with her. My ex wants to get back together and I am tempted because I miss her so much, but I don't want to deal with everything we went through in the past, Sooo much negativity!! I have created so much anxiety in my life that I my sex drive has gone down the toilet and I am becoming impotent!
What can I do to get out of this loop? I am going nuts trying to figure out whats wrong! I want my rock hard erections back, along with my inner peace and confidence!!