Don't be cruel - but maybe move on?

I agree that size matters - there is a certain minimum that would be nice.

I once (long ago) experienced sex with a guy who turned out to be a big surprise - um, that is, a small surprise. The way he had talked for months before we had sex made me expect a lot. I never said anything about his small size to him and we did not have sex again, because for me it was not something I craved to repeat, and for him I think I was "just another notch in the gunbelt". (It wasn't bad sex, it just wasn't the right chemistry between us. He actually worked quite hard at trying to make it good...)

I am glad I did not hurt his feelings. I have been glad to know him over the years and don't feel he deserved being put down. He can't control his endowment anyway.

If this person you are referring to as "not well endowed enough" is someone who you have just had sex with for the first time and you were not satisfied with the experience, you should be honest with him and tell him you aren't up for more. There are lots of excuses you can use to make it easier on him - like "just not the right chemistry". It will be kinder to him in the short and long run if you don't stay involved with someone you don't appreciate fully.

Unfortunately, these guys don't come with warning labels! I also speak from experience that someone really LARGE can be a surprise. I was very young and inexperienced when I met that one. He was too big, I wasn't lubricated enough, was too nervous and didn't realize we could take it more slowly, etc. He scared me away! There's one guy I would like to know now... Tweet