Is he joking or WHAT

My b/f and I live far apart....too far to see one another frequently. We have been friends for years and are very close mentally and spiritually.

Our sex life is awesome. The man is amazing and is the only man who can get me to do things I would have never thought of as well as make me cllmax...yes, he is the ONLY man who has ever been able to make me cllmax, and on occasions, multiple times.


Recently, since I saw him last, he has been making innuendo regarding anal sex. I have to admit that I don't know if he is joking or if he means it. I think he mans it. If he means it, i don't know what I am going to do. Because we get pretty crazy during sex and try new positions and things frequently, I don't want to tell him "No" on anything we do, but I am terrified of anal sex.

I am scared that it is going to be totally painful and I don't want to do anything that is for one person's pleasure and the other's pain. I don't want him giving me a UTI becasue of bacteria present in the anus/colon that isn't supposed to be anywhere else. I don't have any health insurance for seeing a doctor incase I am injured in any way.

And I am afraid to tell him this. I have never been afraid to tell him anything, but I think this is more of a fear of disappointing him. I don't want to disappoint him.

But I am certain I don't want to have anal sex.

Any suggestions?

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