yes and no.

I look at sexuality as a journey of self-discovery and intimacy. That has led me to do many different things with many different kinds of people, both men and women. My preference, however, is to be with a loving man and have tons of girlfriends (friends only), straight and gay.

There's just some kinds of relating that can only be done with women, and vice versa. I prefer the physicalness and frisson that comes from opposites uniting. When I was younger, however, I found a lot of healing by uniting with women and their like energy. That made it easier for me to accept men.

I started out my sexual journey practically frigid when it came to men, due to an abusive relationship with my father. I suffered from vaginisthmus for many years. My answer to that was to jump right in any way I could and just get over it. That's my way. If I'd been phobic of snakes I would have volunteered to go to the Amazon to catalogue rare snakes LOL!

So yes it was complicated at times, but not as much as you might think. But then, I wasn't pursuing marriage or super long-term commitments.