Re: question

You may benefit from reading Lifting the Veil of Duality, http://www.ener-chi.com. It not only shows you the why, but also the how you can free yourself from this self-jeopardising tendency. It shows you that the solution to your live's problems never lies outside, but is right with you, if you dare accept it. It can help you reprogram your mindset of failure and or never quite making it.

Blessings,
Andreas