About $ and marriage (ed. subject for clarity)

about $.

Three areas that are a struggle in marriage (at least mine) are communication, sex, and money.

I've seen your advice on the first two. Why is money such a volitile issue? Why do we (I) let it impact me so much? What's the easiest way to have a more healthy attitude towards it? Don't know if you have touched this topic before, but you seem to have a pretty good handle of most everything, so I thought perhaps you would have some suggestions for those of us who struggle with issues in this area. I know this is a health forum, but so much stress and worry seems to originate here; some of us 'make ourselves sick worrying' and others feel 'money is the obstable that stands in the way of their health/happiness. This can't be right. It is such a touchy issue: why do some of us struggle so much in this area? Is there an attitude we could change that would make a difference?

and, here's the kicker. even if I work and change my attitude about money, which would help my stress levels, and my health, what if my spouse doesn't change his negative attitudes about money ("oh, we'll never have enough for xxxxx")

ps I've 'heard' money issues affect the lower back. If so, may all our lower back issues melt away as we learn wisdom.

thank you.