I was so sad when I read your post. You know the old saying, "You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family." That is certainly true in your case. But, I also know it would be extremely hard to cut ties with family. You are such a kind and loving person who has posted here for a long time and I can only imagine what torment you go through. I am so sorry.
You will be shown the right thing to do. All you have to do is listen. Here are a few lines from a song: "This is my Father's world. He shines in all that's fair. In the rustling grass, I hear him pass. He speaks to me everywhere." Just listen.