DYAD INSTRUCTION LIST

DYAD INSTRUCTION LIST

Chakra bridging requires clear contact between individuals and clear free-flowing energy between chakra centers. The dyad paradigm can be energized in countless ways, and can be spirit-led to maintain healthy relationships and healing modes. In preparation for more intensive chakra bridging, or just for clearing and tuning up ones energies, the use of the following instruction lists have been carefully tested and will yield amazing results when practiced conscientiously with open partners.

The information below was provided courtesy of Bill Savoie. His home page leads to many sources of useful information and people now involved with Enlightenment Intensives (Founded by Yogeshwar Muni/Charles Berner) and spin-off formats: DYAD.ORG.

This information summarizes the important dyad instructions that Edward A Riddle has accumulated over the years. It also represents the kind of trial and error experimentation that should be extended and improved upon. Interpersonal relations are dynamic and therefore any fixed procedural process will not meet everyone's needs. Use whatever you think has potential, and write down those techniques that lead to useful growth experiences.

For Weekly meetings - Start any two-hour weekly process by spending the first five minutes asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me," to clear the air. Remember to use your own judgment (you know yourself better than I do), and feel free to experiment.


Confusion Clearing

Confusion clearing is one of the easiest dyads to run, and it brings many benefits. The trick, if there is a trick, is to start with easy words and work from there. The process is run until the person feels that there is no confusion about the meaning of that issue or word. To run all these words usually takes at least two hours a week for six weeks. Often when you finish the list - enough of the words have changed their meaning -and you can benefit from running the whole process again! If you are a facilitator - let the person themselves pick their level of certainty.

Tell me what <...> is.

Tell me what <...> isn't.

Improvement
Help
Responsibility
Conflict
Contact
Communication
Understanding
Ability
Difference
Prejudice
Origin
Power
Choice
Enlightenment
God
Death


Compulsion Clearing

This is a process used to free one up from automatic feelings of responsibility. The instructions come in pairs. Three alternative choices are shown below. One pair of instructions is picked by the person receiving the help, and the questions are run until the person is clear of compulsion, or wishes to stop running the process. This process usually takes two hours a week for six weeks. Each time you start to spend an hour or two running this process, spend five minutes first asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me," to clear the air.

Tell me what you think you have to be responsible for.
Tell me what you think you don't have to be responsible for.

Tell me a decision you could make.
Tell me a decision you could not make.

Tell me something that is true.
Tell me something that is not true.

Thought Conditions Processes

This process is used to help you identify Thought Conditions you place on your progress. The instructions come in pairs. Four alternative choices are shown below. One pair of instructions is picked by the person receiving the help, and the questions are run until the person is clear of compulsion, or wishes to stop running the process. This process usually takes two hours a week for six weeks. Each time you start to spend an hour or two running this process spend five minutes first asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me," to clear the air.

· Tell me a condition in which it would be all right for you to be closer to another.

Tell me a condition in which it would be all right for you to be closer to others.

Tell me any comments or observations you have about that.

· Tell me a condition in which it would be all right with you to communicate with another.

Tell me a condition in which it would be all right with you to communicate with others.

Tell me any comments or observations you have about that.

· Tell me a condition in which it would be all right with you to duplicate another.

Tell me a condition in which it would be all right with you to duplicate others.

Tell me any comments or observations you have about that.

· Decide that something is so.

Tell me what it is.

Tell me any comments or observations you have about that.

Relating Exercises

This process is used to help build your interpersonal relating skills. The instructions can come in single, pairs, or multi-step instructions. One choice of instructions is picked by the person receiving the help, and the instructions are run until the person is clear or wishes to stop running the process. This process usually takes about two hours. Each time you start to spend an hour or two running this process, spend five minutes first asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me," to clear the air.

Tell me how you want to be loved.
Tell me how you want to love others.

Tell me an outstanding ability of yours.
Tell me something you think we agree on.
Tell me something you like about me.

Tell me something about yourself (that you think I should know).

Tell me something about yourself that you want me to understand.

Tell me something you have held back from others.
Express with emotion how you feel about life.
Tell me something about yourself that has never been completely understood.
Tell me what I need to know in order to understand that completely. (repeat)

Tell me how you want to be communicated with.
Tell me how you want to communicate with others.

Tell me how you want to be helped.
Tell me how I could help you.

Tell me how another could help another.

Tell me how you want to be conscious of others.
Tell me how you want others to be conscious of you.

Express with emotion yourself.
Tell me what you think I understand about you.
Tell me a thought, action, or creation of yours that no one has completely understood.
Tell me an outstanding ability of yours.
Tell me a problem you are currently having in life
Tell me what I need to know in order to understand that problem completely.

Tell me how you think others see you.
Tell me how you want others to see you.

Tell me something about yourself that others have not been understanding.
Tell me your goal (or goals) for life.
Tell me a decision you could make.

Tell me something you have done to another that was not best in you own estimation.
Tell me a way you have been critical of another.
Tell me something you have done that is similar to that.

Tell me about your relationship with <...> (person's name).
Tell me what you think you should tell me about your family of origin.
Tell me about your relationships with (men)(women).
Tell me about your relationship with money.
Tell me about an incomplete communication you currently have with someone in your life. If you could talk to this person about yourself, tell me what you would say.
Put your attention on your partner as a conscious being (1/2 to 2 hours).






Recovery Dyads

This process is used to help people needing recovery. The instructions can be singular or come in pairs. One choice of instructions is picked by the person receiving the help, and the instructions are run until the person is clear or wishes to stop running the process. This process usually takes about two hours a week for three weeks. Each time you start to spend an hour or two running this process, spend five minutes first asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me," to clear the air.

Tell me about your having to be perfect.
Tell me about your fear of criticism.
Tell me about your denying your own awareness.
Tell me about your denying your own accomplishments.
Tell me about your regularly overextending yourself.
Tell me about your having to seek approval.
Tell me about your feeling more alive in a crisis.
Tell me about your fears when things are going well.
Tell me about your feeling compulsively responsible or compulsively not responsible.
Tell me about your feeling that you have to take care of (or rescue) others.
Tell me about your having to isolate yourself from others.
Tell me about your having anxiety in relation to authority figures.
Tell me about your having fear of angry people.
Tell me about your feeling victimized.
Tell me about your having trouble with intimate relationships.
Tell me about your confusing pity with love.
Tell me about your attracting and seeking people who tend to be dysfunctional.
Tell me about your compulsive/addictive behaviors.
Tell me about your clinging to relationships out of fear of being alone.
Tell me about your mistrusting your own feelings.
Tell me about your mistrusting others' feelings.

Tell me about your finding it difficult to express your emotions.
Tell me about your having to control others to feel safe.
Tell me about your feeling shame.
Tell me about your fear of abandonment.
Tell me about your feeling that there's never enough.
Tell me about your feeling that you don't have the right to be you.
Tell me about your feeling there is never enough time.
Tell me about your blaming another.
Tell me about what you are avoiding in yourself by blaming another.

Tell me about you denying your own needs.
Tell me about you denying that others have choice.






Couples Dyads

This process is used to help build your interpersonal relating skills. The instructions can come in single, pairs, or multi-step instructions. One choice of instructions is picked by the person receiving the help, and the instructions are run until the person is clear or wishes to stop running the process. This process usually takes about two hours a week for six weeks. Each time you start to spend an hour or two running this process, spend five minutes first asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me," to clear the air.

Tell me something you like about me.
Tell me something you think we agree on.

Tell me something you think I should know.

Tell me something that you have withheld from me.
Tell me your goals in life.
Tell me your goals for our relationship.

How could I help you?
How could you help me?

Tell me how you want to be loved.
Tell me how you want to love others.

Tell me what you think I should know about sex.
Tell me what you think I should know about money.
Tell me what <...> is.
love

sex

friendship

a partner

marriage

a husband

a wife

infatuation

communication

understanding

reality

Tell me something that is very important to our relationship.
Tell me what I need to know in order to understand that completely.







Karma Clearing

This process is used to work on guilt. The instructions can come in single, pairs, or multi-step instructions. One choice of instructions is picked by the person receiving the help, and the instructions are run until the person is clear or wishes to stop running the process. This process usually takes about two hours a week for three weeks. Each time you start to spend an hour or two running this process, spend five minutes first asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me," to clear the air.

Tell me something you have done (to another) that you think you should not have done. Tell me what standard of yours you think you have violated.
Tell me what effect you think this had on <...>. (other's name)

Tell me something you have failed to do (for another) that you think you should have done. Tell me what standard of yours you think you have violated.
Tell me what effect you think this had on <...>. (other's name)

Tell me something you have withheld from another.
Tell me something you have done to another that was not best in your own estimation.






Personality Trait Exercise

This process, designed by Dee Wheatly and me (Bill Savoie), was used to help me to understand and change my personality traits. The instructions come in pairs. The instructions are run until the person is clear or wishes to stop running the process. You start the process by getting or "imagining" yourself in the desired state. Later, you start to actually experience the emotion of the desired state. Still later you actually get yourself into the desired state. This process usually takes about two hours per week and lasts for six to 10 weeks. Each time you start to spend an hour or two running this process, spend five minutes first asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me," to clear the air. (Graduation was to play a harmonica in a crowded restaurant waiting-area, without being shy, or playing my best. Until this, I had always been an introvert. I changed my life modality by my choice and it was wonderful!)

· Imagine yourself as an introvert.

Tell me your comments and observations about that.

Imagine yourself as an extrovert.

Tell me your comments and observations about that.







Body Instructions

This process is used to help build your awareness of your body and it function. The instructions start simple and as you run and clear them, you move to the next instruction, or multi-step instruction. This advanced process usually takes about two hours per week for 26 weeks. Each time you start to spend an hour or two running this process, spend five minutes first asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me", to clear the air.

· Tell me your idea of what a body is.

Tell me your idea of what a body isn't.

Tell me any comments or observations you have about that.

· You get the idea of being a body.

You get the idea of not being a body.

Tell me any comments or observations you have about that.

· Be your body.

Tell me what you did to be your body.

Un-be your body.

Tell me what you did to un-be your body.

Tell me any comments or observations you have about that.

· Pick a body part.

Put your attention on it.

Tell me your comments and observations you have about that.

· Tell me a mental attitude.

Tell me a body feeling.

Tell me any comments or observations you have about that.

· You put a feeling in your body.

You put an opposite feeling in your body.

Tell me any comments or observations you have about that.







Mind Course Exercises

This process is used to help build your awareness of your mind and its function. The instructions start simple and as you run and clear them, you move to the next instruction, or multi-step instruction. This process usually takes about two hours per week for four weeks. Each time you start to spend an hour or two running this process, spend five minutes first asking, "Tell me what you think you should tell me," to clear the air.

· Close your eyes. With your attention, look to the right (left, above, below, behind, in front) of your body.

Describe what you are aware of.

· Get a mental image picture.

Experience and describe as many perceptions as you can of that mental image picture.

Tell me your comments and observations about that.

· Get a mental image picture.

View that picture from the original viewpoint.

Tell me your comments and observations about that.

· Get a mental image picture.

Tell me something this reminds you of.

Tell me what similarity of significance there is between the two.

Tell me your comments and observations about that.

· Get a mental image picture that has an emotion in it.

Tell me the emotion.

Get a mental image picture with a similar emotion.

Tell me a difference between the two emotions.

Tell me your comments and observations about that.







Janus Process

This process was invented by Ed Riddle and he had great success with it in a group of 12 people, i.e. six Dyads, running it all day long on a Saturday. Years later, people were still telling him how much they got from that one-day experiment. To run the process, you ask, "Tell me something you think you should tell me." Now you listen for a compliance. After they comply, acknowledge that and then ask, "Tell me how communicating that changed our relationship." Repeat this second question until the Gong sounds.

Everybody agrees that this is a wonderful process - but each person sees something different in it. Ed says "As several of these cycles go by, people start to perceive both answers at the same time. In other words, as they answer the first question, they directly notice the second answer, and they better experience what communication in a relationship is." I experience that too, but in Ed's words "It doesn't matter what you start with." I found just the opposite. If you start with something real the thread of meaning is easy to follow and it always goes to some great truth about self/other/love /life. It is a very powerful process. Go for inclusive existence - rather than thoughts inside your own head. Try the process with an open mind - without preconceived ideas about how it is best done. Don't tell people what they will find - tell them to be honest. Janus has great flexibility - because it is so simple, yet because recursion is part of the process, it is a real jack hammer - one can drill right through layers of baloney to become really grounded.

· Tell me something you think you should tell me. (once per 5 minute period)

Tell me how communicating that changed our relationship. (repeat until gong)

(If using five-minute cycles, acknowledge and repeat the second line after each response until the end of the five-minute period. If doing cycle change-overs, acknowledge and repeat the second line after each response three times.)







Enlightenment Instructions

Charles Berner, the creator of the Enlightenment Intensive, only sanctioned four instructions. I consider "Tell me what love is." to be a universal standard. Understanding for me is a big issue, but only 1% of participants have tried it. As far as I am concerned each Enlightenment Intensive Coach can choose to encourage or allow extensions beyond the standard who, what, another, and life questions. Use your own judgment. A good question is one that can reach beyond the mind.

· Tell me who you are.

· Tell me what another is.

· Tell me what life is.

· Tell me what Love is.

· Tell me what understanding is.

· Tell me what you are.

· Tell me your true nature.

· Tell me the purpose of Life.

· Tell me what Death is.

· Tell me how life is fulfilled.

· Tell me how life is best fulfilled.

· Tell me what God is.




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