Hi Martha,
I understand what you have been going through. I have the smae problem even when I drink lots of water and eat lots of fiber. What I do now is keep mineral oil and KY Jelly on handand luibricate my rectum so the large fat BM slides out easier. It still hurts but not as much and is easier on the inside lining. I have clogged toilets too and at home keep a chopping utensil with the plunger to break the BM into smaller pieces and plunge while fluhing. It helps sometimes but I've had the toilet still clog.My last girlfriend rejected me because of this problem. I thought I was alone with this. Please email if you would like to talk more about it. Take care , Jon