Actually, I was not on Welfare, at the time I would have been too ashamed to ask for help; that was the attitude I was raised with. Their (the Church's) thinking was that I was being punished by God, thus my misfortune. And it was not the whole church, just a few leaders. It was my choice to leave. Yet the feeling of being judged as unfit hurt to where I was on the point of suicide for a while. You see, I was seeing myself and judging my self by the same standards that I was being judged by others and had judged other folks. I'm sorry I didn't take more time to explain myself. The point I was trying to make is that we often have to go through hard and difficult times to experience the good things God has in store for us. This particular church has, unfortunately suffered several splits,and is having trouble right now. I don't wish them ill, but I do pray that they will see real revival and walk more with nonjudgemental love, and give up on so much legalism.