Weird type of Herpes

I have a big problem:

I'm 23, almost 24 and have had some sort of disease that no doctor is willing to test for because they call me crazy and ask me to seek psychological help.

When I was 20 I had protected sex with my ex but was menstruating a little bit and he got some on him, a week later, sores appeared on him and he was diagnosed with herpes virus 2.

I went to the doctors and they told me i dont have it if i dont show signs.

We broke up, and 2 years later I met my recent guy, after one year of having unprotected sex with him I had menstruated on him a little bit and a week later, he had sores.

Slowly he lost his color, didn't tan well, became very lethargic, the sores n him became multiple and never went away. He had gastrointestinal problems and didnt want to go to the doctor. He then had cold sores (after kissing him for 3 years, and only him, I never shown cold sores and I kissed him a lot while he had them).

One time he shared a drnk with one of his friends a week later i noticed cold sores on his friend, a month later he was sent to a mental institution because he was talking to himself. He was OK after the sores went away. Yet another one of my guys friends was sent to the mental institution after HE also had sores. My guy is now havng dillusions that the government is getting him and his cold sores are getting worse.

I dont know if this has to do with herpes encephalitis but doctors think Im thinking too much into it. They did blood tests on me and i am negatve antibodies for HSV1 and 2.

WHAT IS THIS??? :(