HELP!I had surgery 6 weeks ago& the wound is STILL WIDE OPEN! EXTREME inflamation/swelling of interior skin! HELP PLEASE!

Hello all,
WHAT A NIGHTMARE!
I REALLY need some help here. I went in to have a sabatious cyst removed by some IDIOT DOCTOR on May 18, 2004! 6 weeks ago!

Now myhusband is 6'2, 300 pounds (big football playin man) and the doc had me sitting on the table with my head in my husbands chest while he HELD my head for the surgery! Well this doctor was pushing so hard on my head he was just bout knocking my my hubby off his feet.
Well the next day, we discovered that Mr. Doctor had sewed up a double loop of hair in the incision area. Well, eventually what happened is that the stitches evaporated and the hole (which was a little smaller than dime size) had OPENED up and the SWOLLEN tissure from inside my head was working it's way OUT! NOW the hole is the size of a QUARTER! NO JOKE EITHER. It bleeds like a sieve if touched wrong, is CHERRY RED (looks like a cherry tomatoe!!) and is raised about 1 to 2 inches ABOVE the skin line. I have been in P A I N for over 6 weeks now. It is not scabbing over, shrinking down and healing. I went to this idiot doctor again (after he IGNORED MY CALLS for 1 month and his nurse BEGGED me to come back in and let them make it right. Well we did and the doc was JUST as big a jerk as the first time we were there and tried to outright BLAME ME for it saying I was moving all over the place!! now remember, my football hubby had a DEATH GRIP on my head...trust me there was NOOOOO moving.

Anyway, this doc says "oh what you have is a blood clot" LET ME CUT YOU OPEN AGAIN AND REMOVE IT! My hubby was like "YA RIGHT!!!" and we got the heck out of there. We went to 3 other specialist who said that not only was that doctor WRONG (there isn't a blood clot) but he is trying to COVER HIS BUTT because of the EXTREME pressing on my head, it cause SERVER INFLAMATION OF THE INTERIOR SKIN from traumatizing it!

ANyway, he says to leave it alone for another 4 to 6 weeks and if it isn't healed by the end of July, i'll need to go BACK in for surgery to have it removed!!! (that was one week ago) and it should heal on its own. I have to put triple anti biotic on it with pain releiver 2 X a day to HOPEFULLY not get an infection.

Now this is 1 week and a day later and folks...thers NO change except for a very smallllll crust of scab around the lower edge (very very thin).
HAS ANYONE HAD THIS HAPPEN BEFORE and will this thing heal on it's own??? or is this a losing battle? I am really scared and am alergic to anesthesia and can't be put under for surgery, and have reactions to the lanicane (for numbing).

So I'm screwed in a nutshell if this thing dosen't heal on it's own. Anyone ever hear of this type of thing NOT healing???
Gosh I'd appreciate any feed back!
THANKS A BUNCH!
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