Re: Inner Child runs the show-!!
Hi, Lori,
The therapist's book I read part of (in 1985/86), acknowledged the person 'listening' to the memories/needs of the inner people. They called it 'the adult you are becoming', probably because that is where the responsibility for healing and growth must be placed.
They also suggested that one NOT do exercises alone, in case, I suppose, remembered feelings tend to overwhelm reason. They suggested to do exercises only with a qualified therapist.
If I remember correctly they also suggested that exercises be time-limited...I think it was 15 minutes, max.
I did it by myself (hm-m-m...) as I was impressed by the simplicity of the concept. The idea of a 'set' of feelings remembered as a child; and other 'sets' attributed to one's perceptions of parents, and adult self, seemed quite understandable.
I also liked NOT going into the endless details of 'why'. Simply the 'adult', me, comforting and calming, and taking responsibility for, was easy to do in just a few words...and amazingly effective!
Some of the 'why's' occurred to me over time, without feeling bad. The memories were truly comforted and calmed.
What I like about Wishcraft, and all of Barbara's work, is that it lifts one lightly over all obstacles to find and accomplish one's dreams. No kidding!
Everyone has gifts. Our gifts are the things we love best, and, therefore, DO very well. We'll miss supper for them. And we must have something of each of them every day.
That's what Barbara figured out, in the 1970's. She studied avidly, and always gives credit to the originator for every idea she uses.
More than that, she doesn't do 'bliss'. The idea of an 'inner child' isn't one that she would choose.
Barbara is a communicator. She teaches people to help each other find and fulfill their heart-felt desires, their loves and gifts.
Did you get as far as finding your own 'touchstones'? Did you reach that point where your voice goes soft?
That's powerful, because it is the real you!
Next, you need 'brainstorming' of ways to bring those things into your life. Barbara found that six heads are better than one. (Grin!)
I've written it elsewhere, but let me paraphrase a story:
Barbara was giving a personal consultation to one woman, and she couldn't discover what that lady loved.
As the woman was leaving the office, she picked up a magazine and softly said that it was about gorillas.
The softness in her voice made Barbara call the client back to the consultation.
"Why aren't you working with gorillas?"
"How could I get a job like that? EVERYONE wants to work with gorillas!"
Needless to say, this lady now cares for baby gorillas, and loves every minute of it.
That's why I love Wishcraft.
Me? I love fairies...the world of the tiny. Someone put a name to it - community. Yup, that's me.
fledgling