I can understand how you feel. My man does not work and it has the same effect. He does not feel he is worthy of a relationship. He also still has baggage from his last relationship. Every time I ask him for feedback on his feelings and is he ready to commit, he breaks up with me. The pressure is just too much for him. Maybe you should just leave him be, thats what im doing, and see what he does next. I dont know why it seems so hard for single guys to commit, yet they seem to want the benifits of having a lady to sleep with and be with. Its so hard when they turn cold on you, and it leaves you feeling alone and rejected once again. He also says he doesnt fit in to my life and my children, yet he doesnt seem to try either. Anyway, dont let this guy mess you around, ask for what you want and if he cant give it, try to move on.