CureZone   Log On   Join
Leave Husband?
 
needadvise Views: 3,307
Published: 17 years ago
 

Leave Husband?


I am almost 25 years old and have been married for 2 years. I married only knowing my husband for 5 months - it was a love at first sight situation. At about 8 months of marriage I began wondering if I made a mistake. My husband is 42, in case that is relevant in what I am about to tell you.

My husband is not an awful husband, but there are things that annoy me to the point that I wonder if I should divorce him. Also, I have a roaming eye for men. To start off, I went to Europe 8 months into our marriage with girlfriends and spent time with a man alone. I'm not sure if what I did is considered an "affair". We did not have intercourse because of my guilt, but did engage in heavy petting. This is where the wondering of divorce popped in my head. Should I leave the marriage because of my actions? Does this mean I don't love him? Am I just not ready for marriage? I was so confused, and still am. Every since that moment I off and on I have thought about having an affair. Off and on I speak to my ex-boyfriend who would like to rekindle our relationship, and somtimes I get carried away and think about him often. What is wrong with me?? I feel like a horrible person.

Back to the things that annoy me about my husband. He always blames me for everything, even if I have nothing to do with the situation (arguements, being late, etc.) He never apologizes for anything. He comes home from work and locks himself in his office and rarley wants to hang out and talk to me. I mostly only see him when it's dinner time (we have together) or he needs to go to the kitchen or bathroom. He never takes me out. I practically beg him to take me to the movies or dinner, but he always says he can't stand to be around a lot of people and wait to be seated. He says it's not worth it. He is very much a homebody. He never goes out. He also refuses to help me clean the house or cook. When I try to talk to him about my life and struggles he dosn't really hear what I am saying. And lastly, it's mostly his way or the highway. He makes most of the decisions about everything, although I do try to make my point heard.

I have tried repeadtly to tell my husband that these things about him bother me. He laughs at me at tells me I am overeacting. If I cry he shows no sympathy. He just leaves the room. I even told him that I "kissed" a man in Europe and he wouldn't hear me or deal with the situation. I have even told him several times that I thought about divorce if we can't work on things and he tells me to go ahead and divorce him because he can't make me want to be married to him. He says he wouldn't be devesated if we divorced. He says these things happen and he would be fine.

The positive things about my marriage is that we laugh a lot together and he is generally easy going when it comes to my freedom. I often go out with friends without hime without getthing the evil eye from him. He is generally a nice person who is liked by all. He supported me while I quit my job to finish college for 9 months. I just graduated and am looking for work now.

Would do you think? No one knows these private thoughts, but you and my husband.

Appreciate your help.



©†ƒ……•™¼‡_Original_Message_¾€š½ž¢«»¬ï°©

I am almost 25 years old and have been married for 2 years. I married only knowing my husband for 5 months - it was a love at first sight situation. At about 8 months of marriage I began wondering if I made a mistake. My husband is 42, in case that is relevant in what I am about to tell you.

My husband is not an awful husband, but there are things that annoy me to the point that I wonder if I should divorce him. Also, I have a roaming eye for men. To start off, I went to Europe 8 months into our marriage with girlfriends and spent time with a man alone. I'm not sure if what I did is considered an "affair". We did not have intercourse because of my guilt, but did engage in heavy petting. This is where the wondering of divorce popped in my head. Should I leave the marriage because of my actions? Does this mean I don't love him? Am I just not ready for marriage? I was so confused, and still am. Every since that moment I off and on I have thought about having an affair. Off and on I speak to my ex-boyfriend who would like to rekindle our relationship, and somtimes I get carried away and think about him often. What is wrong with me?? I feel like a horrible person.

Back to the things that annoy me about my husband. He always blames me for everything, even if I have nothing to do with the situation (arguements, being late, etc.) He never apologizes for anything. He comes home from work and locks himself in his office and rarley wants to hang out and talk to me. I mostly only see him when it's dinner time (we have together) or he needs to go to the kitchen or bathroom. He never takes me out. I practically beg him to take me to the movies or dinner, but he always says he can't stand to be around a lot of people and wait to be seated. He says it's not worth it. He is very much a homebody. He never goes out. He also refuses to help me clean the house or cook. When I try to talk to him about my life and struggles he dosn't really hear what I am saying. And lastly, it's mostly his way or the highway. He makes most of the decisions about everything, although I do try to make my point heard.

I have tried repeadtly to tell my husband that these things about him bother me. He laughs at me at tells me I am overeacting. If I cry he shows no sympathy. He just leaves the room. I even told him that I "kissed" a man in Europe and he wouldn't hear me or deal with the situation. I have even told him several times that I thought about divorce if we can't work on things and he tells me to go ahead and divorce him because he can't make me want to be married to him. He says he wouldn't be devesated if we divorced. He says these things happen and he would be fine.

The positive things about my marriage is that we laugh a lot together and he is generally easy going when it comes to my freedom. I often go out with friends without hime without getthing the evil eye from him. He is generally a nice person who is liked by all. He supported me while I quit my job to finish college for 9 months. I just graduated and am looking for work now.

Would do you think? No one knows these private thoughts, but you and my husband.

Appreciate your help,

Kim

 

 
Printer-friendly version of this page Email this message to a friend
Alert Moderators
Report Spam or bad message  Alert Moderators on This GOOD Message

This Forum message belongs to a larger discussion thread. See the complete thread below. You can reply to this message!


 

Donate to CureZone


CureZone Newsletter is distributed in partnership with https://www.netatlantic.com


Contact Us - Advertise - Stats

Copyright 1999 - 2022  curezone.org

2.672 sec, (3)