Re: I don't Want sex with my girlfriend. Please help give me any advice

Thank you for this. And I do think about marriage and a family I honestly really want a family with her and I want to do everything with this girl she is my everything and I don't know what I would do without her. And when we do talk about it we both burst into tears and I hate seeing her so sad and upset. But I forgot to mention one thing. When she told me she didn't want to ruin the mood I got upset and told her that the mood doesn't matter and sexy doesn't matter and she just started crying and she told me "I matter more than sex?" And I said yes and she just started saying thank you to me over and over. I think I may have helped her a little bit but I just feel so bad that I can't even be comfortable with my own genitals. I know it's not my fault about what happened to her and she does want sex and I've told her that I may need some time to get comfortable. I do really want to continue to have sex with her because I enjoy making her feel good and happy but I don't enjoy it if I'm the only one who feels Anything and I hate that I triggered her flashbacks because I'm the one who asked her to go down on me