Domestic violence has occurred many times unbeknownst to you and others due to infidelity...Even murder in retaliation or a "tit for tat" mentality could consume a slighted or jealous mate, spouse, or significant other to the point of plotting the death of an unfaithful spouse...It is good that you were not disloyal and I feel sorry for that you suffered abuse at the hands of your mate possibly due to your husband's own insecurities or the like. I am not saying that domestic abuse only occurs when disloyalty is involved....That is farther from the truth than the moon is from the earth....Many things can trigger domestic violence, alcohol abuse, drug a use, low self esteem, emotional and mental issues, or one's lot in life. However, it is a known fact the it can occur because of infidelity on either one or both spouses sexual indiscretion is a real trigger for domestic violence....Check your strong assertions and facts a little bit closer with better research mam.