This was really helpful. Thank you. My ex husbands lawyer encourages the alienating behaviors and tactics, and he eats it up, he was good before but this attorney has websites written about him and his encouragement of 'destroy your ex's relationship with the kids'. I'm not proud to say I have not been as close lipped as I should have been (because I get accused of keeping info from him, even when he's asking about things not related to the kids) and shot myself in the foot or basically handed him the gun to do it to me. Thank you. This is thoughtful advice.