Re: Barefoot anger issues?

Here's an interesting perspective, from years of living outside the US, and from years of my own anger issues, and dealing with the anger issues of others (parents), and from dealing with the apathy of others for what I had to say, despite me being hired as the absolute "expert" by numerous entities...both corporate and personal.

First of all, if you think that you the expert and the only one who actually knows something and that no one can get it somewhere else, you might be right (and I'm not talking to anyone in particular here). But you might also not be right. You might have a LOT to learn.

I have a friend who is an Egyptian bodybuilder...natural, by the way. He's the strongest bodybuilder that I have ever seen. Most don't actually train for strenght, but he did. Nonetheless, he got sick. VERY sick. He would drink water and it would just go right out of him. He would eat and it would come right out. He was in the hospital absolutely dying and the doctors were saying that they could see that nothing was working, but superficially there seemed to be nothing wrong with him. They gave him medication for pain, for this for that. He said that he had noticed some odd things for the past five years and they kept getting weirder, and now they were now accelerating and now was convinced that he was going to die. In a last ditch he got on a plane for Egypt (we were in Eastern Europe - Egypt is in Africa) and when he arrived his family took him to his priest. An Egyptian (Christian) priest, who had baptized him. Yes, there are Christians in Egypt. In fact, real Egyptians are Christian...though some have converted under great pressure.

My friend told me that this priest has the "gift"...not all of them do, he said, but this one does. So, the priest tells him to bend at the knees and bow his head forward. The priest then placed his hand on his (my friend's) head and started asking "Who is attacking this man?" again and again in Egyptian (which they don't speak a lot of in Egypt any longer. But it's one of the oldest languages on Earth). So, the priest answers his own question but in another, completely different voice and accent, "I don't know!!!" Then the priest started yelling out in a conversation that must have been in tongues, because my friend told me he could not understand. Finally, the priest screams and removes his hand from my friend's head. and my friend said it almost pulled him onto the floor..it was like a suction cup being released.

The priest hurried away and hurried back with a vial of some gunk and told my friend to drink it quickly and completely. So, he said it was the worst thing he'd ever imagined that could exist.

Then the priest held a service (a regular service with other people), and my friend is sure he's at death's door. He can't stand, but the priest insists that he stand for his prayers, so his mother is helping him. And all of a sudden he had to go to the bathroom. And he said he ran, holding himself. He sat down and let go a huge amount of matter. He went back to the service and by the end of it, was ready for life again. And he has not been sick since that, 3 years ago.

So you be the judge, I don't know. But it sounds like that priest knows something. He also told my friend who was attacking him, and my friend hadn't mentioned anything to the guy. My friend was pretty sure that the priest was right.

So, here's an example of a misunderstanding waiting to happen. Many people who are now looking for help in forums such as this are experiencing not only physical issues such as eyesight issues (for instance I have VERY blurry vision and it takes me longer to focus than it did a few weeks ago, and the focus is lost immediately when I look away), cognitive issues (I also have a lesser capacity to understand things than just seven or eight weeks ago - they call it brain fog, but regardless, it is something that throws you. I hear things that aren't said, sometimes I hear things that seem like they were in front of me and they were behind me (which has never happened until about 8 weeks ago) and I can read things totally differently than they are written), in addition I am now more sensitive than previously (I have a grip on it, but it takes me effort...I also have in the back of my mind the times that I've told someone that my arm doesn't work properly at this point and that there are times when it is impossible to use it...and they haven't believed me or said "oh, you're fine." Which when you know things aren't so fine and you don't know where to turn, those things can get on your nerves.) So, the fact is, I might read something and totally misunderstand it. And even though I know this, and I read it again, it might still not register correctly or logically in my mind. If someone gives me what might feel like guff for that, and tell me it's my fault...well, do I need to hear that? I only really need to hear what I can do about it, because as far as something being my fault (or anyone's) there are things that are, and things that aren't. It's not your fault that your mother doesn't know that feeding you eggs from a big bad corporation is bad when they're telling her that those eggs are fine.

Also, inn these forums you have people whose native language is not English. And for this you have to be VERY careful, because even people whose English is not so great have been told that they speak it very well. My suggestion, be the more enlightened one and realize that those people learned the language from someone who probably didn't speak it perfectly and didn't know all of the different expressions we use daily. They might also not understand words like "the" and "a". Sounds odd, but many languages don't have equivalents. So, you might know the difference in saying or hearing "medicine is good" and "the medicine is good" or "a medicine is good", but quite often people from other languages don't. I taught English in Europe and they hand out "expert" level English grades, etc. to people who could not participate in a conversation for five minutes. A friend of my girlfriend actually works in the UK as an anesthesiologist and admits that she goes to conferences and is completely baffled by what was said, but scored NATIVE speaker on her tests. Understand that languages (ESPECIALLY English) are really hard to learn perfectly, and you can help more people. Try sending a high school french student to Paris and you'll see that that they're lost for everything except the basics, and even then they have to deal with accents, etc.

And I know that as an English teacher I had a LOT to learn. I had to learn also that many people in that part of the world have attention issues, and cognitive issues...that are NOT their fault. I mean is it your fault if you're poisoned by a parent who's trying to get head lice off your head, or your ear is operated on and they do a little oopsie? It's not. Because it's not your fualt for being born in a certain geographic region, where the "government" has decided that your life is worthless, and that you are worth less than a slave. And that's a reality in this world that we live in, in countries where you all might not think that's possible.

As if that weren't enough, there are simple cultural things. Like when you go to an Amish house youu might hear a burp after a meal, and no one apologizes. People from other places in the world can be stunned by something you say, because they might NEVER say or have heard something like that.

I think it's hard enough to be malfunctioning. And when someone is less than sensitive to your potential issues, it makes healing a HELL of a long road. and I think that everyone can help with that. Stop making excuses. People are people and have reflexes, if you are an expert, fine, tell the truth. But tell it so that it's not in ignorance of other peoples' sensitivities and background of possibly dealing with a mind full of propaganda and lies (that kind of unhealthiness is also not healed in a day). Just because you have the bible doesn't mean that other people have been so fortunate. To me, it's one thing - very serious, but to many it's a book of fairy tales, because that's how they were taught to see it. It can be utterly frustrating to them.

Many people are NOT on birth control. I don't know ANYONE who is...and I've NEVER had a relationship with a woman who was. I have personally NEVER taken more than a few ibuprofen (I've also NEVER been one who had much pain in my life, even wtih stitches I never got anesthetized...some people do have a lot of pain...and maybe you know why, but they don't. I don't actually think it's their fault that they are misled so thoroughly. Not everyone has the benefit of growing up in a country with religious "freedom", or with home brewed knowledge, and even people who have been born here have to deal with all of the misinformation that they've been given from previous generations/TV/ and every other thing out there...that is VERY hard to overcome). And NEVER smoked pot, never done any drugs...never EVER even seen a steroid...been offered cortisone and refused. Never smoked. Have had 15 drinks of alcohol in 48 years. Been vegan for years. And I do think that eating vegan opens one up spiritually. But all of this is hard to learn for other people. And I think that Jesus knew that...forgive them, for they know NOT what they do. I'm not saying it means "waste your time", but just because someone grew up in a certain way or place and have residual stuff to carry around, doesn't mean that they are defective. Also, quite often, I'm certain that it can be the parasites talking. And I'm not kidding, I think people want to be free of the control of those things so bad that they can be completely lost socially.

Also, the Inuit might say that (about laughing), I don't know because I've never lived among them...but they also took the lives of a few missionaries during the 1800s. So, I doubt that all the Inuit did about problems, and losing land and culture, was laugh about the problems.

And the point about coming at healing from a position of feeling small is ANOTHER cultural thing. In many countries in the world, the MD (or expert) is like a god. So, there's this reverence. And if the expert makes you feel even smaller, than you already do...most of those people don't come back out of shame and guilt for being "wrong" and "stupid". Many people, eveen in the States have habits that come from other cultures. I've seen it happen. I'd hate to see it happen in the States, or from Americans...because one thing that I told my friends when I returned to the States after 8 years of not having been here at all, was that I learned to LOVE America more and more every day that I was away...because Americans...real Americans...take care of other people, because they all know, somewhere in their heritage what it's like to be from somewhere else and need that helping hand. Tweet