Re: please help me. i want to pop my uninfected bartholin cyst

I can relate! I have had the same thing since January 2012 (except on both sides) and they've been causing nothing but trouble since. I felt a little bump on my left labia after a wax in December 2011 but thought nothing of it. A couple of weeks later I started dating my current boyfriend. We'd only been together 3 weeks when the bump went to the size of a ping pong ball (but deep under the skin). It didn't cause pain at the time but caused a lot of hassle when trying to have sex. This was horrible for me as this is the first relationship i've ever been in and I thought I was going to lose my boyfriend because I had a huge lump down there. Soon after it happened on the right side too but this one was smaller and less hard.

None of the doctors I saw diagnosed them as bartholins cysts and I ended up having them lanced in May 2012, then the one on the right done again in July 2012. They came back days later though and I dealt with the agony of them abcessing and swelling up and pressing on the scar tissue from the previous surgeries until April this year when I was referred to a surgeon in a different hospital. She diagnosed them as Bartholins cysts and scheduled me for marsupialization on both sides in May. The surgery and recovery weren't too bad as I was just happy to get it over with and finally know what they were. The surgeon said after the surgery that she was really happy with how it went and that they shouldn't come back, I actually cried with relief. 1 month later and they were back :( I gave it til 6 weeks after the surgery before trying to have sex but as soon as I did the right cyst turned into an abscess and I could barely walk/sit for 3 days. This has been happening since...I'll go about 3 weeks with a cyst, gradually getting bigger then turning into an excruciating abscess, then bursting and disappearing for a week only to turn into a cyst again, re-starting the cycle. That happens with the one on the left, the other seems to be staying pretty small right now.

I've decided that I don't want to be cut into anymore by surgeons/butchers and I'm going to try to deal with the occasional pain and then a few weeks of relief. I really hope they'll go away eventually, I just don't want to risk being covered in scars down there causing pain and numbness for the rest of my life. I'm embarrassed by the lumps n things not looking normal there but i'm really lucky to be with someone who's been there the whole time and loves me too much to care about what it looks like, and just thinks that i'm brave for having to go through all of this crap. Tweet