Re: Attracted to lesbian co-worker

BlueRose is spot-on about this situation. My views on "marriage" and commitment have been altered over the past couple of years, but that's due to my personal experiences.

The thing about "marriage" is that, in the U.S., it's a binding, contractual agreement - when a marriage ends, it's a very, very expensive and traumatic experience and hinges solely upon "equitable distribution of assets." Having typed that, the question is whether or not you feel love for your wife and mother of your children?

If you honestly love your wife, then BlueRose suggested that you speak openly and honestly with her and make TIME to care about and FOR her and your union. Does your wife work? Does she stay at home and care for your children? Does she have outside interests of her own? Is she able to rest from the rigors of parenting, from time to time?

When children are tossed into the relationship status, many things are sacrificed for the well-being of the children. The introduction of children ALTERS a relationship, whether people are willing to admit this, or not.

Yes, the fantasy of what the coworker represents will, in no way, turn out to be what you are imagining. And, it will be a very, very expensive blunder to give in to this "forbidden desire" that you're building for yourself.

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