Husband does not want to have sex with me

I am an attractive woman with a 58 year old husband who has not wanted to have sex with me for sometimes years or sometimes months. I am 51 years old and don't want to live the rest of my live never making love again to my husband. I am not a cheater so that is not an option but my husband has had affairs. While he keeps telling me that he can not have sex I do not believe him because he told me that once and my not wanting to make him feel like less if a man was willing to wait or live a sexless life because he is my husband and I love him.

Come to find out that was just an excuse not to have sex with me because he was having an affair for 8 months with a girl at work. I know that his has no sexua| issues he just does not want to have sex with me and that really hurts. Is it possible for a 58 year old man just not to want to have sex anymore even with all the drugs available to assist and enhance it?

Or because he does not want to have sex with me is it possible that he just does not want to have sex anymore? Even though he still shaves his privates because we would use toys. He says he keeps shaving because it's too itchy growing in? For the most part the rest of or 16 year marriage though really rough at times is seemingly pretty good. He says he loves me and does not want a divorce or to date other people.? Please help me understand this. Am I just stupid and he is cheating again? Tweet