What I have learned about Life so Far

You know, reading posts from people who suffer from Depression hurts my heart. I hate for people to suffer. I have suffered a lot in my lifetime, so I thought I would share what has helped me in my life. If one person can benefit from my life experiences, then I will have succeeded.

1. I stay away from people who are always trying to defend themselves or always have to have the last word. You meet these people everyday. There is a reason they must defend themselves. If you are truly comfortable in your own skin, you don't have a need to constantly defend yourself. Surround yourself with positive people, not chronic complainers. There is a saying "When a man is with another man for more than 30 days, he will become LIKE that man." Hang around very young children or very old people. These people you learn from because if you think about it, people your age (and I am speaking of young adults and middle agers) have WAY too many problems and you spend most of your time listening to problems that you can't fix. Look at life through the eyes of a young one who has not experienced life or the elderly who have experienced life.

2. I try not to listen to a lot of news. It's too depressing anyway. You will eventually hear about it. Spend your time outside in the sun, with plants, walking around, or just sitting taking in this beautiful world.

3. When life hits you with a double whammy (and please note that I said WHEN, not IF) of bad stuff, just roll with it. Everyone has had their share. No one is immune from bad happenings. In my first marriage, I was hit with two affairs and years of alcohol and physical and mental abuse spending years blaming myself for his shortcomings. It was only after I left that marriage that I began to find out who Paulette really was and is today. Thirteen years after I left that marriage, my 1st husband ended his troubled life. Dealing with that is a double whammy for me and probably will be until the day I die. But, when I have a bad day (and there have been a lot of those lately) I try to focus on something positive. (Please don't not tell me I have nothing to feel guilty about because I always will feel that guilt and there is nothing anyone says that will ever take that away) I just deal with it the best way I can.

4. Get busy helping someone else. If you stay in your own "pity party" nothing will be resloved. Get busy helping someone else. I am a firm believer that "If life has been good to you, you HAVE to give something back!" You can always see the good in your life if you look hard enough. I belong to Big Brothers, Big Sisters organization and many other clubs and organizations. I stay as busy as I can giving back as much as I can. If you have a retired neighbor, spend a minute with them. They do get lonely. E-mail as many friends as you can and try to on a daily basis. PEOPLE DO LOVE MAIL!

5. Be kind. In this lifetime, I truly believe we will be judged by our kindness to others. I do believe that all of my new friends here on curezone---Agnes, Starbrite, Juniper Berry, to name a few --(and all of my newest friends here that I will look forward to knowing better)--I believe even though we may never meet on this earth, we will see each other on the other side and that we will know each other. That is so exciting to me!

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