Re: i am a victim to a sociopath mother

Not easy to walk away . some of us have to sit and wait for fate to turn on our side.
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With all due respect, such a statement implies that you are playing the victim. That said, it may seem to you that you don't have any options. However, you do have options. Whether or not you exercise these options, that's entirely up to you --- and no one else. It's never easy to take a stand and break away, but it can be done.

You say that your religion has put constraints on you when it comes to breaking away. I'm assuming that you live in a Western country. If so, you are free to break away from your religion. Don't get me wrong---I'm not trying to trivialize your beliefs. I'm just pointing out that this option exists. Of course, such an option may mean having to leave your extended family behind. And what about your husband? Has he voiced an opinion on all of this? I hope that your husband is treating you well and not subjugating you in any way.

Your mother will continue to have power over you only if you continue to let her.

If you are feeling conflicted due to your faith, I would suggest finding a counselor who specializes in this topic. Some would suggest talking to a cleric. However, it depends on the cleric. One who is forward-thinking could help you deal with your mother and help you separate. However, one who is backward in belief won't be of help. That's why I suggest an independent counselor. An independent counselor will help you shore up your resolve, and thus, help you make the right decision for YOU.

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