one of the best things to do is both you and your partner go into a state of peace and calm. to do that you can chant, listen to music, look at a candle, or (my favorite) count backwards from 10 to 0 and with each descending number feel yourself going in deeper and deeper and at 0 enter your garden. the garden can be a place you already know and are familiar with or can be something your subconscious knows.Once in the garden put your protections and then send a message to the universe for your guardians or spirit guides to be there with you and dont wait for an answer as the answer is always a yes and then send this message "we are planning a baby and could the right soul please bless us with being born to us. also could we be guided towards what to do and what not to"
you will get an answer either there and then as a though, words, images or feelings or you will get an answer through some physical medium like a magazine, lyrics of a song etc.
love
Dr. Seema Anand http://www.lookbeyondindia.com