Found him!

I have now found my inner child!
I read a post in here the other day, about it which gave me an idea. Earlier this year i did a CBT home study course online. For those of you who dont know what that is, its a Cognitive Behavoiural Therapy, its all about identifying traits in your behaviours which arent helpfull to you, it then helps you to understand what they mean and how they affect you. It then helps you to teach yourself to recover from those traits; it teaches you to help yourself.
I was very depressed, and still suffering from the effects of numerous abuses in my childhood, and i am in counselling for this.
Part of my therapy involves thinking about my inner child; in every hurt person there is a child who is still hurt, still victim to the abuses you suffered, and i was thinking about how all this affected him. I knew he was there, but i just did not know how to get in touch with him. There will not ever be a physical reunion with your inner child; its impossible. No-one is going to love a 48 year old man as a 5year old; thats imporatnt. Because you are no longer that 5 year old! But that 5 year old still lives, in you, frightened, hurt, terrified, traumatised etc. he was not able to grow as you have.
In my CBT course i was taught to recognise my thoughts, especially the unhelpfull ones, negative thoughts. I was taught to recognise the thought for what it is, and then let it be; carry on with what i was doing. Not to argue with the thought.
Once i'd learned how to detect my negative thoughts, and was good at it, i then went on to learn how to challenge the thought.
Recently i got to thinking about how i could "meet" my inner child, and i came up against a brick wall, because there is no way on earth this can physically happen.
I say PHYSICALLY; but you can meet him or her; there IS a way!
I got to thinking along the lines of my thoughts! Think about it; that little boy was not shown or taught how to think positively! Neither was I! I had to do it for myself; but he cant.
Those negative thoughts are my inner child! "we're not going to be able to do this!" "this is impossible", "lets just give up".
If i hadnt done my CBT i'd not have known about my thoughts; i have learned that i can help my inner child; by affirming him, acknowledging him, comforting him, and nurturing him; showing him that those bad things wont happen any more, that i'll protect him from here on in.

I am delighted that i am able to talk to him, i'm able to get to know him, i can re-parent him, thats what inner child work is all about; re-parenting the hurt child. Inner child work is absolutely essential for those hurt by abuses in their childhood; i am assured now that i will in time make a full recovery from my past. This is fantastic news for me; and for others.
I hope you find YOUR inner child; this is a great way of getting in touch with him/her! Tweet