sex after botched vasectomy and post vasectomy syndrome

Anybody out there with the same problem???

My husband decided to have a vasectomy , after months of deciding whether I should have my tubes tied of if he should get a vasectomy. After being told that vasectomies are much easier, and an in an out procedure, as opposed to me having major surgury, we decided to opt for the vasectomy. We asked the doctor if there was any possibility of something going wrong, because if there was, even if it was a one in billion shot, he would not go through with it. We were told that the only side effects were that my husband would have swelling and bruising for a few weeks, but other than that, there were no other worries. Well it's two almost two years later, and we just recently got married in February of 2011, and have not been able to consumate the marriager due to something called post vasectomy syndrome. We were never told of this, and only found out about this after seeing dozends of specialists and doctors. My husband is in daily pain due to spasms in his right testicle and had we known that this was a possibility , he would have never done it. We feel angry that we were never told about the possible but rare complications such as post vasectomy syndrom. Had my husband known about this, he would have never gone through with it. Now it's been almost two years , and we cannot have sex. WE thought if we got married, it may psychologically change things, but it's only gotten worst, and since our marrage 6 months ago, we haven't been able to have intercourse not even once. He is in daily pain, and cannot do anything that we used to do before, like his love of motorcycles for example. He is a huge enthusiast, but due to all the bumps, while riding, he cannot go on without experienceing excrutiating spasms, that force him to pull over. He feel like he's not a man because he cannot make love to me anymore. We are so angry that we want to sue this doctor for what he did. Had we been totally informed about possible complications, even though they are rare, my husband wouldn't have done it, and I would have had my tubes tied. We're both frustrated and dont' know where to go with this. His only prognosis is that he has to amputate, but the govrernment won't even pay for a prosthesis, because if this were the case, he would even do this, but he has so much pride, that the thoghht of one testicle just makes him freak out, but a prosthesis he can handle. Only problem is we can't afford a prosthesis and I beleive this doctor should at least pay for this. Any legal advice or any type of advice would be aprreciated. I have a huge sex drive and prior to the vasectomy, we had sex about 3 times a day, now it's down to zero. He's too afraid to attempt intercourse, or even have an erection becaue both give him so much pain that its hard to see a 6 foot 6 man cry from pain and whenever he has had ejaculated, the pain that comes with it is not worth it. I've actually seen him cry like a baby from the pain, and I can feel the right testicle spasm when I touch it. We're totally out of ideas, and have tried everything , even viagara, which made it worst becaue the erectin lasted long, but also caused him a great deal of pain. The statute of limitations to sue the doctor is coming up and we dont' want to sue him to be rich from this, but to have this doctor pay for the prosthesis and are not looking to get rich from this, but to help pay for a reversal or anything needed to fix the problem. Can anybody tell me of their experiences with post vasectomy syndrome and if a lawyer is necessary. We can't find anybody wlling to do it on congtingency, and are willing to do it in small claims, to at least pay for the prosthesis for amputation. Doctors should not be able to get away with this sort of thing, especially if they have not informed the patient of any potential complications and all we want is for a normal sex life again and for this doctor to compensate us for loss of earnings becaue my husband is not able to do any physical work anymore, as well as cost of prosthesis. We have tried toys, different positions, etc.. but whenever he has an erection or I try to give him oral sex, he will ejaculate, but the pain that comers with the orgasm is not worth it and we need to hear any stories from others, medical advice, legal advice, or any help from others in the same situation would be helpful. We're both very frustrated because we both had a very huge sex drive prior to this, and now it's gone from 3 times a day to not even consumating our marriage, and no sex from the day we got married. We are both in our forties and are too young to live in a sexless marriage. HELP Tweet