Re: Dealing with anger at abuser?

Hi

I know your post was a long time ago, so I hope you don't mind me replying to it this late in the day. I really hope that you are long past your exs abusive behaviour...though I know from my own experience that it can go on for years.

I was wondering if you had found any helpful way to get the anger/rage out? I am encountering something similar from a relationship I was in about 16 years ago. He was very mentally and emotionally abusive too, and made me believe it was me and that i was going nuts. I have a LOT of hate/anger feelings towards him that I know I need to get out of my system.

I had just taken all the abuse as I was still in shock following a rape 18 months before I met him, so I just used to freeze when he started getting angry at me. I still struggle with this. Learning that I now have the power to act is taking a long time. I was drugged when raped so I physically couldn't do anything so it's as though that experience has been hard-wired in and I feel like I can't respond if someone is out of order with me.

Anyway, I'm sorry, I didn't intend to say so much...basically just wanted to say that I hope you have found your way through and healed, and ask if you did find any helpful ways to release the anger.

Love and good wishes
Kath Tweet