Re: Once again correcting a distorted view of reality

 Spud,

My words are not out of any type of loyalty in defending Tony.  You stated that you highly respect me and I appreciate that.  But please respect the fact that this is indeed what happened and Tony had no ill will.  Spud, I was here, I talked to him, I know his motives.  I think that everybody knows by now that I am not a person to mince words and I call it as it is.  Please know that if Tony had acted out of any ill will, I would not be here defending him.  It would be his baby to deal with.  

He did mention later that it may have very well been a mistake to bring it up.  And he did apologize.  He did said he was sorry.  And once a person says they are sorry there is nothing else they can do.  He did not mean to offend you in any way, and I am sorry that you were indeed offended.

But in this instance, and certain other instances, yes, it is time I stepped in and defended him.  It's not out of just loyalty, it's because it is being perceived in a very wrong way.

And I totally understand where you are coming from.  I feel the same way when someone points to my actions and reactions as the result of anxiety and panic.  It is a very personal thing and it does hurt.  And yep, it feels like a really low blow.   But once someone apologizes for inflicting hurt,  whether the hurt was indirect or even direct,  hopefully the apology would be accepted and it would be over and done with.

Yes, let's put this matter to rest.   I know that we have different viewpoints, but I truly hope that I have shed a new light on this and that it can be put to rest once and for all.

Luella.