I think of NDE's as a kind of reform school for those who are not on the right track.... We just were not getting it and needed new instructions, to help us along on our path. Do you feel cheated? A NDE is a mixed blessing at best. It is hard to deal with all of the suffering in this world when you know without a doubt that there is a better place... This place may not be hell but it is certainly a much lesser heaven than the world where we will return.